What Could Have Been

Dating Question

The question of dating comes up once in a while. My history is brief and short lived.

In high school, I probably had the interest to date, but had not the means. We lived in the far outer reaches of the school district in the countryside. I did not have a drivers license until late in High School, and throughout school I was not encourage with extracurricular activities.

During my university years, I was busy with studies, working in the park system, and doing photography. I was interested in finding a wife ... it was on my to-do list ... but it did not have enough priority until nearing graduation.

In my senior year of university I met a young lady that caught my attention. She was intelligent and in a field similar to my minor degree. I worked up the nerve to ask her out. Looking back, I should have gotten to know her better first. We dated for a few weeks.

As someone who had never dated, this was a wonderful experience ... probably riding on an emotional high that intuitive thinkers like myself seldom achieve. As an introvert, this was a roller coaster event trying to relate to someone on a deeper level over a significant amount of time together. As I was more of an Epicurean philosopher than a Christian at this stage of my life, I was in great danger .. more than I could ever have imagined ... and I did not escape unscathed.

I was extremely naive. Looking back, it is apparent I missed the obvious clues and signs that were made. For those few weeks I basically ended up friend-zoning myself as I still had it in my mind to have a long-term and hopefully committed relationship. But I was slipping. I was recognizing I could have sex with her. And I was seriously considering it. Except then she ended it because she certainly was not wanting commitment. Oh ... the pain.

Interestingly, the aftermath of this was that I actually steeled my self control and made the decision I would save myself for marriage. I would not let myself be tempted in such a way again. It actually scares me to think of where I might have ended up if I started down that path. I am guessing it would have led me away from the Bible and a relationship with my Savior. It would likely have made me miss out on the wonderful wife I do have and the wonderful (currently twenty-three) years of marriage we have had together. I would likely have missed the creation science research that has occurred as well as many other opportunities.

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